The Holiday Tea has always been one of my favorite events and this year’s event surpassed the others by far.

This year, we had the pleasure of having Stella Grizont speak to us about The Science of Happiness: How to Flourish at Work. What better way to end the year and ring in the new year than discussing how to be happy.

Stella taught us how to drastically change our mood at work in three easy steps.

Step 1: Stop complaining. While we typically bond with others through gossip and complaining, these habits are detrimental to our happiness. We must not relinquish our power over our experiences by focusing on the negative. Every day, identify 5 things for which you are grateful. In the words of 3-time Gold medalist Kristin Armstrong, “When we focus on our gratitude, the tide of disappointment goes out and the tide of love rushes in.”

Step 2: Develop meaningful relationships. Stella stated that relationships are the number one predictor of happiness at work beyond salary and health. Additionally, people who have at least one friend at work are 7 times more engaged than those who do not. Therefore, it is essential to our happiness to develop and maintain meaningful relationships. To do this, we have to cherish those around us and actively help to build up their joy.

Step 3: Orient your goals to create happiness. On her website, Stella offers a vision generator which will help you develop a plan to create a job where you would be happy. When your purpose is clear, it is easier to develop steps and make choices that will get you where you want to be.

Personally, I was inspired by Stella. I realized that I am guilty of giving away my power and my happiness to negative bias. How do I expect to feel joy and happiness, if I am always complaining and commiserating with people who are also constantly complaining? Today, I reclaim my power. I will focus on gratitude. I will build up joy in others. I will create happiness at work and at home. I deserved it. And you do too.

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Blog written by Yvette Thornton